February 11, 2005
Valentine’s Day: The Girlfriend’s Perspective
After reading my boyfriend’s nice long rant about Valentine’s Day, I thought I would share my own reasonings for liking such a day. I mean, what girl doesn’t love the idea of her boyfriend giving her flowers and candy on a designated day of the year? Why can’t this be any random day of the year, he asks.
Well, it’s doesn’t usually happen that way. Not many guys will randomly surprise their girl with something pretty and chocolatey just one day. It’s convenient for men, they just have to remember that it’s Valentine’s Day and voila, they have a happy girlfriend. But it’s not about the flowers and candy, at all, really.
It’s more about the showing of love on a day which is supposed to be a celebration of love. If you ignore it, it just doesn’t seem very nice. Shouldn’t you be looking for any excuse to loudly and foolishly declare your love for someone? It’s not really like me to adopt an “everybody’s doing it” philosophy, but it does feel kinda pathetic when you have a boyfriend and don’t even get a “Happy VDay” from him.
Also, some women need to be constantly reassured that they are loved. It’s called insecurity and this is the age where it is most predominant. Men assume that if they show it every now and then that we just assume that nothing’s changed. I take it as a personal insult if I’ve been forgotten on the one day of the year that’s supposed to be about romance.
It’s not about the gift. It’s not about getting a beautiful bouquet of pricy red roses. It’s not about expensive chocolate. It’s about romance, and it’s one day of the year where you can flaunt in public how much you’re in love. (Granted, there are a lot of people who hide in their closets on VDay to escape exactly this.) But to me, it’s not about recieving nice tokens of love. It’s about having someone who cares enough about me to realize that it’s a day about love and showing it. I don’t need a lot of fuss, but a little bit, just to acknowledge that “it’s Valentine’s Day and I did something special for you, because I think you’re worth it.”
I don’t care what Mike and I do for VDay, as long as there’s romance. :D
Little Miss said,
February 12, 2005 @ 3:43 am
I think Valentine’s Day is the dumbest holiday of them all. (Well, I’m sure there are some that I don’t really know off by hand… hold on… “What if Cats and Dogs had Opposable Thumbs Day”… that’s a good one) ANYWAYS, I’m not a person who puts a lot of emphasis on the holiday, with or without a boyfriend. To me, it’s just another day, and I can see why Mike thinks so too. You shouldn’t need a day to “make your love public.” Why does everyone need to know what’s going on between you? Isn’t that what getting married is for anyways? I think a simple, “Happy Valentine’s Day” is fine. Flowers, candy, and a stuffed animal are way too clitche and I agree with Meags when she says it’s not all about that. Giving your special someone a dozen roses isn’t saying “I was thinking about you”, it’s saying, “This is what gets the other guy the points so it’s gotta work for me.” So unthoughtful. But yeah, when you know someone has a very strong feeling towards the holiday, it is nice to indulge them in it. Otherwise, I think it’s all a bunch of hooey!
Shepenwepet said,
February 15, 2005 @ 5:48 pm
Wow, Mandy beat me to the punch on that one. If I hadda been here first I would have posted just about the same thing. I personally do not see a point to VDay, i think it’s just a fake holiday invented by chocolatiers and hallmark to make an extra few bucks. (and don’t anyone start with, “oh, but it’s St. Valentine’s Day, and blah blah blah…”) It’s all about cheating the public out of their money on crap they don’t need. People say I’m just bummed because I don’t have a bf to share Vday with. If I had a bf I sure as hell would not ask him to buy me anything on vday. February 14th is just another day to me. WEEEEEE! Don’t I sound so nice and happy?! Well I am!